Moses Supposes His Children are Roses, Moses Supposes Erroneously
Do you walk up to water and just JUMP in, without checking the temperature first, so in case it’s too cold, you don’t have time to think abo……………
When we are preoccupied with outward form our focus tends to become shallow and behavior oriented. Subsequently, we rely heavily upon our authority in an attempt to bring our children under our total control.
I was great with child, waddling through the grocery store. I just wanted to be home …when all of a sudden, out of no where, appeared 2 children on BICYCLES riding through the dairy section, barely missing me. (Not that missing me would have been easy!) No, wait, they were now in the meat dept….hold on, bread…. meat….dairy, back into meat…. They were riding up and down the main aisle. They were riding bikes with the tags still on them. “How lovely. New bikes for children whose parents can’t control them, lucky neighbors.” Those were the thoughts running through my head.
When Scripture says, “He must be one who manages his own household well, keeping his children under control with all dignity.” – what does it mean if it doesn’t mean UNDER CONTROL?!!!
Reb goes on to compare the training of roses with the training of children – reminding us that children are people and will ultimately choose how they will respond to parental influence.
“If we think we have total control over how our children respond to our training, we will relate to them not so much as people, but more as soulless animals. If we fail to understand this, we will be tempted to intensely control our children up into their adult years. As parents we give ourselves way too much credit for the power we have in our children’s lives. Such a perspective insures that we will develop a dominating style of parenting that will likely damage our relationship with our children and hinder our ability to truly influence their values.”
His next point heads him toward Proverbs 22:6. I don’t want to take this on, until we have discussed the first portion, so I’ll stop here.
Please – let’s hash this out – what do we do with I Tim 3:4 (that I quoted above) ? It would seem that it is a key issue here – for lacking in this area would appear to result in a man being disqualified to serve in God’s household. How do we balance Reb’s comments concerning controlling our children with the Word of God?
By the way, yes, I do jump into the water without knowing the temperature first. Often gets me into trouble, but it also helps me get things done, when I’m dragging my feet.
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