Truly Truly Amazing Grace!
Ok, so we have this Reb Bradley stick to finish hitting ourselves with…. and I get my copy of “No Ordinary Home” yesterday. I’m all but done with it. I read late into the night and early this morning. I just couldn’t resist it. (THANK YOU KRYSTAL for suggesting it!!) Now, guess what I don’t want to discuss. I know, I know, just a little over 2 wks…. If by any chance, we all get our books this week, how do we feel about starting on Monday? (If there are still some who are waiting on the book (April?? when is your copy due in??), that’s not a problem, we can wait…I think.) 😉
So, Ladies, Proverbs 22:6 – is it a promise? I can certainly say that there have been seasons of my life where I wished that it were so. I can’t say I believe that it is a guarantee that our children will love the Lord with all their hearts. (Besides, I don’t want to wait until my children are old before they embrace the things of God.)
“…we relied upon fear of our authority as the main source of motivation for our children. …there is a great difference between intimidating children into subjection and winning their hearts into submission”He then goes on to talk about the importance of teaching our younger children with strong parental control. I would like to share with you one of the things that we experienced on our path to parenting by grace. Virtually all of the parents we knew who were parenting by grace had unkind and disrespectful and disobedient children. THAT was not the fruit that we wanted. We tried applying the “methods” we were learning – to no avail. One day, I ran to the bathroom – it was quiet – and just cried out to the Lord to open my eyes, that I might understand how to train my children in grace. The Lord quickened in my heart that as a child in Christ, we leaned heavily on the Law, until we had learned the heart of the Father. So too with our children. When they are young, they are “under the Law” so to speak, so that they can grow to embrace ….and see the GREATNESS of Grace. If there is no law in their life – they don’t see grace, either.
Now, lest you think that I want my children to see my kindness and fall at my feet, “Oh Benevolent Mother, thou art blest above all other mothers for thou didst not beat me within an inch of my life when I forgotest thou thy coffee, whilst thou did sit with thy feet upon the stool.” Oh no, no, no, no. (I get too confused by the thees, thous and thys. They can just grovel in normal language.) 😉 My goal, in parenting, must be to show them God. If they do not value grace extended to them from me, how much less will they value it coming from Father?
I grew up a “good” kid. When I would hear, “He who is forgiven much, loves much.” I always felt cheated, I would never be able to love God much. I was a good kid….I didn’t get forgiven much…because I didn’t have much to forgive. (Are you still here – did you fall off your chair laughing? I’ll give you a few seconds to compose yourself) That really is how I felt. I needed to be saved from my own goodness.
When our children grow up aware of the law, then they are aware of their own sin and their incredible need of grace and the preciousness of the gift of it. I do not ever want my children to think that they are good enough that they don’t need a Savior. When I do not point out their sin, then I run the risk of doing just that. This is definitely one area I do not want my apples falling too close to this tree!!
(I hesitated to share this – for fear of not communicating my heart clearly – if I have neglected to do so – and it’s quite likely – PLEASE ask me for clarification! AND to clarify – I am chomping at the bit to discuss No Ordinary Home.)