My Son, Be Attentive to my Wisdom (just don’t listen to me mumble)
I have 6 daughters and one son. I am a daughter. (duh) I am not nor ever have been a son. Herein lies the dilemma. I do not know how to deal with some of the issues that come about when being the mother of a son.
For instance, how does one lovingly train one’s son to respond to the woman found in Proverbs 5 & 7? I will not mince words here. I have a tall, handsome, charming son. (He takes after his father) He is funny and personable, once he gets past the new people thing. (He takes after his mother…except maybe the funny and personable part…) I am amazed – horrified and shocked at the responses he receives from young ladies. (Did I mention horrified?? How about shocked???)
There is one young lady in particular that is driving me nuts! She is flagrant in her flirting and she is….well, she is nigh on pitiable. The word loose comes to mind, although I don’t suppose I should use it…. rats! She throws herself at one young man after another.
This past summer my son was involved in a summer theatre program (I know, I know, shame on me for letting my home schooled child out of the house, let alone allowing him to participate in something as base as theatre…oh sorry, I read Spunky this morning…she did call all IN homeschoolers to attention, don’t ya know? Just reading the falderal of those in authority brings the caustic to the surface. Gee, what a surprise, I digress.) On the final day, she sidled up to my son and put her hand on his shoulder and leaned in close (did I mention shocked??) and said, “I had to offer sacrifices and today I have paid my vows;”…oh wait, wrong quote.. (did I mention caustic??) she said, “I’m going to sit right beside YOU during the cast party. Everybody, I get to sit by OE during the party!!”
Now, being the kind, thoughtful, subtle mother that I am, if you would have been standing near me, you would have heard, “OH NO you’re not!” So, I turned to Jeff and said, “Honey,can we take the kids to Ritters (it’s a really yummy frozen custard place) instead of having them be a part of the cast party?” Problem eliminated.
Today however, the “problem” has raised its ugly head again – this year, we allowed both OE and BondServant to serve at a local church, while the moms have Bible Study. This same young woman was involved last year and therefore, we did not allow #1 son to participate. This year, he is working directly with his sister only so we allowed him to go. All was fine until the meeting was over and the children were gathering to go home. (cue the “Jaws” music) Just when we thought it was safe to go to the church……HER.
She came up and tried to hug my son (DID I MENTION HORRIFIED???) and said, “Oh, it’s SO good to see you. I’m SO glad you’re working here too.” My son said, “Nice to see you.” Here the report gets muddy. Daughter says he was too nice. Son says “I barely spoke 8 words to her (I did remind him that “Nice to see you” is 4…) and then I walked away to go play with the kids in the hallway.” Then he asked me the BIG question…. “How do I respond to her in a Christlike way?” My response, “RUN! When you see her, run!!!” “But Mom, you’ve always taught us to not run in church – now what??” (Smart Alick kid) 😉 (Side note – although she knows my daughter, she made no effort to even acknowledge her, let alone speak to her.)
SO, wiser (I think I’m the oldest of the bunch, aren’t I??) women, how do I counsel my son to deal with such a young lady? She has been this way for quite some time, as when I was working at the library 8 yrs ago, she would flirt with the men and boys there. When we attended church with them, she still flirted with the men and boys there, as well. This is not a new pattern, but it’s one I don’t care to see showing up in the weave of our family tapestry.