Being busy with this book writing has been SUCH a blessing. First of all, the education I’m gaining from the studying is wonderful, but better than that, WHAT A MAGNIFIYING GLASS! Every “leak,” every area of weakness is being shown under the light of the pressure this places on our family. (Ok, ok, so it’s likely not EVERY area, but enough are being shown, that I’d really like to continue in my little delusion, if you don’t mind.)
The other day, I heard myself speaking a language that is not the native tongue of children….Parenteze. Perhaps you’re not familiar with this language? Oh, let me enlighten you as to how I employed it for such effective communication. 🙄
“Hoooonnnneeeey, AGAIN? You did it A.G.A.I.N.? I know you didn’t mean to Sweetheart, but we keep talking about this and you keep doing it….” You getting the picture? Right, critical speech issuing from my mouth. I guess I was trying to delude myself into thinking if I used “loving mommy words” like Honey or Sweetheart that it would make it all okay. (Puke) I keep thinking that I’ve been at this parenting thing long enough that I would/should understand, anytime I try to parent in a way that doesn’t mimic how Father parents me it’s going to stink. And I assure you – this did.
I continue to grow in my understanding of what it means to parent by grace and speaking in Parenteze is NOT a part of that formula. And OH HOW I wish it were a formula. Ahhhh – take one parent, add one child, say one specific prayer – shake, not stir and voila’ – parenting by grace performed. Because Father’s intent is to train ME as I train my children, it will never be so simple….but I can wish, can’t I?
Jeff and I had a mini-meeting the other morning (read: before the barking dog woke the sleeping baby….and no that isn’t our typing exercise for the week…sadly) where we were focusing on the goals we want to write down for 2007. With the addition of our entrepreneurial adventure/escapade, it has added a) a heightened sense of our need for written goals and b) a whole new category of goals to write out.
We promptly established a Clark family Vision Statement: “Our family was created, by the Most High God, to love and worship Him, to cultivate relationships and to take dominion, all for the glory and pleasure of our Lord.” So, we were starting with our relationship goals. Here’s our first one: “To make our children much more aware of our encouragement than of our correction” (hat tip to CJ Mahaney)
While I was writing it, I was, of course thinking, “Ah ha ha ha, Lord, aren’t You clever ? You’re not fooling me. You’re socking me with a double whammy here. I have just agreed to do this with my dear blog buddies for Jeff and now You’re calling me to it on the kids too.” I think I heard Him laughing. Just thought you should know, so you aren’t surprised when I don’t have any pity/mercy on y’all while we’re working on our challenge. 😉 😀 OH and just in case you didn’t sign up yet, there’s plenty more room on the loop. (Likely after the above “threat” there will be even more room.) 😉