Coffee and tea…or me?
I believe God created men differently from women. I believe that He did this to allow for mankind to more fully reflect the glory and character of God. I believe that there is some reflection of God, Elohim – Creator – that resides in women in one way that is generally different from men. I believe that this way is found in our desire to see beauty in our lives.
There was a season when I determined in my heart that we couldn’t afford for me to employ any form of beauty in our home. We simply didn’t have that kind of money and I was being selfish to demand such a thing. I believe that was a wrong heart attitude and I believe I “cheated” my daughters out of a precious season of learning.
Since that time, I have purposed in my heart to find ways to add beauty into our daily lives. I so strongly believe that this is a reflection of God’s heart for woman, that I will, without hesitation ask God for ideas on ways or things to add beauty into our days/home. For this current season, the thing that the Lord laid upon my heart was implementing tea time.
You see, ever since I started reading Laine’s Letters or information from Sally Clarkson, I’ve always wanted to have a tea time at our house – it has never worked because (surprise, surprise) I’ve tried to make it “too much.” I wanted it to be perfect. So, rather than allowing it to be the time of refreshing that it was intended to be, I’ve made it a production and simply sucked the life from it. The Lord dealt with that in me and now we are able to appreciate the moment of regrouping and relationship that it should be. It has become a delight. 🙂
What, you might wonder, is different? I will tell you (even if you’re not wondering) 😉 I have put my children in charge of it. The agreement is, you may do whatever you’d like, as long as you clean it up. If you want candles, fine. If you want music, fine. If you want to make peanut butter honey and cinnamon sandwiches and cut them up, fine. If you want to serve string cheese and crackers, fine. I put no stipulations, no requirements and no expectations (THE HARDEST) on our tea time. With my new job, I am busy at the computer for a chunk of the late afternoon, so to have the children prepare tea and invite me from my computer cubby hole, is a JOY! (AND we have had some things I would never have thought to make – not the least of which was peanut butter shortbread. Delicious.)
Another area that the Holy Spirit is tugging on my heart about is (ducking) stuff. I am on a mission, with a vengeance, to eliminate more stuff from our house. We are taking 15 min each day to attack one room and gather a grocery bag full of stuff to get rid of. It really is that painless…right now. (It won’t be as we keep going and we get down to less and less stuff, I am certain.) Father keeps reminding me that beauty is not chaotic and that the stuff is a drain upon my eyes and until I get rid of it, I will struggle to see beauty in my home.
I am rejoicing that as the Lord keeps removing more of me from this equation, my daughters, in particular, are being set free to delight in and foster beauty in their lives and in our home. I cringe to think of how often I have stifled that by my expectations. So, now, rather than having more of me (and my plans), I’m delighting in afternoon tea – no matter what it looks like.
Edit: I realize that part of what makes this work at my house is the Bigs that I have. However, please know, that even my 7 yr old is responsible for one day. This last week we had apples that she washed and water, as I recall, but it was still a nice refreshing break for us all. 🙂