What kind of list do you have? A “can’t do” or a “to do”?
You know what? You can’t do all the things that are in your day. You can’t. You may be smart, you may be strong, but you simply can’t do them. You can’t do the laundry, keep up with the baby, read to the children, run after the dog, keep the sidewalks shoveled, sort through the game closet and make dinner. You can’t direct your home school. You can’t love your children or your husband. You can’t remember to call your friend or send that birthday card. You can’t do it.
There! It’s out in the open. Do you feel better?? It seems like there is something very freeing about admitting that you simply have too many things on your plate. And really? The truth is you can’t.
You see, the truth really is, you were never intended to do it either. This is part of where I think many of the mommies I know, right now, are getting sold a bill of sales. We’re being told we CAN do it all. The fact is, we can’t. Say it after me….”I can’t do all this.” (Be sure to wave your hand around in that royal “kingdom” type way, as you say that. Definitely make sure that sweeping hand includes the general kitchen direction, the toy room area and FOR SURE the laundry room!)
Now, here’s the exciting part of that confession. Once you poise yourself, understanding that you can’t – and were never intended to – do all this alone, you’re FINALLY in the position to take up the help that the Lord intended you to have. Himself.
Remember the little kid’s song? “Little ones to Him belong, they are weak, but He is strong.” You’ve known it all along. We, my dear precious one, are weak. Once we stop trying to be strong, we can move over and allow Him to be strong for us, through us. Once we understand that we are limited, we are ready to begin to understand how limitLESS He is.
This has been a battle in my life for years. You see, for the most part, I am a strong woman. Before Christ, if you got in my way, I’d likely run you under. (Nicely…smiling, smiling, of course, but I’d still run right on over you.) The problem was, I could do it all. I could bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan…and then wash the pan and put it away and sweep the kitchen and do laundry all at the same time. I COULD do it. Because of that, I was totally unaware of my complete self UN-sufficiency.
This meant that Father had to break me. (NOT the method of adjustment I recommend, by the way. I suggest a pliant heart that He is able to work with, instead.) Now, I’m very much aware of how much I can’t do. I’m very much aware of how much of my day is filled with Him – working through me – and how little of it I am able to perform on my own. (I don’t always remember to operate that way, but I know it.)
Instead of making a “to – do” list, make a “can’t do” list. I am not advocating throwing your hands up in the air and doing nothing. Rather, I’m saying throw your arms open to the enabling that the Lord desires to bring into your life. Write the list of things that you need to get done in your day…take it to Him. “Lord, these are the things I can’t do today. Lord, I need YOU to work in me, that I might accomplish them FOR YOUR GLORY, not for my own.” (Sorry, maybe I’m the only one who struggles with this?? “Whoo hoo, look how much *I* did today.” 🙄 I’m very good at that, even if it’s just quietly in my own heart.) You see, it’s just so horribly vital that we understand that every good thing we accomplish today is grace. His grace, poured out for us.
When you get to the end of the day, if you are walking around assuming that you can do all these things on your own, then what is there to amaze you about the provision of your Lord today? AND if you’re not amazed, what is the point of your worship of Him? In our weakness He is made strong – He is lifted up and made GREAT in our eyes. Are you keeping God small by continuing to believe you can do it all? Please, won’t you join me and change your “to do” list to “I can’t do, but You can do through, me” list? I have no doubt He will delight in amazing you, as much as He does me!
(Sorry, I REALLY intended to wait to hear what issues you needed most to “discuss” but this was so heavily on my heart this morning, as I was praying for y’all, I just had to come and post it. I’ll be quiet now.) 😉