Gniog uoy era erehw
Ahhhh, the old joke of men never being willing to stop for directions…I know it well. I live it. On a trip back from Naperville, IL, where I grew up, Jeff and I were disagreeing over which way to turn on the toll road. He won. All the way I kept asking, “This doesn’t look familiar, how far are you going to go before stopping to get directions?” He didn’t have a good answer for me. But, several hours later, when we arrived at the Wisconsin state line, he decided then would be a good time.
Talk about lost! (There’s more to that story and I’ll share it another time – remind me it was a great lesson for me!) We were broke as broke can be – we had only enough money for tolls, gas – to and from Naperville – and $5 for food, in case we had to have it. We had spent $2 of it so far and had driven WAY off our appointed path. BUT, thankfully for us, when we arrived at the Wisconsin state line, we KNEW we were going the wrong way. We knew to turn around. How different it would have been, had we not even known that Wisconsin was the wrong direction from Indiana.
THIS is how we were going after our homeschooling. We were just driving, usually with little money in our pockets, too. 😉 We were driving fast and furious, because we wanted to “do this right.” The first thing that the Lord did, when dealing with the practical side of this process was make us stop and identify our goals.
Without a goal, how can we know if we’re even headed in the right direction, let alone know what directions to get if you get lost?!!! We had spent years homeschooling, with no goal….no vision. No wonder we were running amok. We were living the truth of Proverbs 29:18 . “Where there is no vision, the people are unrestrained,” OH BOY we were unrestrained!
Where did we want our children’s education to take them? College? The mission field? Work in the factory? Now, I’ll confess right here and now, this is a trick question. But, I didn’t see that. I spent days coming up with what I thought our goals should be. As soon as I got ready to “present” them to God, I knew I was a worm! I knew that once again I was presumptuous enough to think that I should know what it was that the Lord had for my kids.
So, back to the prayer closet for me. (Well, us, really) This question is an ongoing one, that the Lord is choosing to reveal, to us at least, one small bit at a time, as our children get old enough to pursue their own interests. So, little by little, I started making a list of the things that were important to me to see in our children. CHARACTER TRAITS, not academic accomplishments.
Once I had my character traits list, I began to work backward. If I want my children to leave home with an understanding of how to use money, how will I teach that to them? If I want them to leave home with a heart for service, how is that to be taught? By knowing the goals, I could work backward, figuring out how to get where we wanted to go. No longer were we just cruising along, without the end in sight. The children all had a purpose and a vision (as did we).
If you are homeschooling, I would adjure you ask yourself, “What end goals do I have for my children?” If you don’t know the answer to that, are you sure that the path that you’re on will get you where you want to go? If our end goal is wrong, then all the effort that we’re pouring out will never, no matter how hard we’re working, ever get us where we want to go. No matter how many times Jeff wanted to be driving toward Indiana, we were still headed toward Wisconsin.
Rather than spinning your wheels, expending much energy, with no clear direction in mind, won’t you …spend some time in prayer….talk to your hubby… and see if the path you are on is one that will get you to the goals you have for your family? Then start and work your way backward….backward to the one clear goal.
.suseJ tsirhC ni doG fo llac drawpu eht fo ezirp eht rof laog eht drawot no sserp I
(If you feel that it will serve you, I will explain what our school looks like…our organic school. 🙂 It will likely frustrate you, because on the outside, it’s not very impressive looking. But, the fruit has been GRAND! Just post any questions you want me to answer and I’ll get them tackled. I may try to do them tomorrow yet, so you can ruminate for the weekend. Cause you KNOW I won’t be around on Sunday.) 😉