Unattended children will be given an espresso and a free puppy
That is the sign that hung over the cash register, at the coffee shop where we met Kristine and her husband, last week. It stared me in the face all night long. At first I found it amusing…as the night went on, it sunk in, why would they post it, if there weren’t unattended children running around? In a coffee shop? In a coffee shop filled with shelves of coffee mugs and tea cups? In a shop where adults meet to hot drink coffee and converse? Kiddos and coffee and glass, OH MY!
Why is it that it seems that unattended children are more the norm than ever before? Why is it that I sat and watched a mom allow her 4 yr old to wheedle her into buying her a new pair of shoes, only to turn around and do it for a candy bar, only to hear her doing yet again, in order to gain a stop at McDonalds for a milk shake before heading home from the grocery store?
On the same trip to the store, Jeff and I threw a candy bar on the counter and said, “We’ve been good tonight, we haven’t argued or disobeyed once. We get to share a candy bar.” The cashier laughed and said, “Okay, but have you been racing around on those skate-shoe things? Did you knock anyone down and keep going when you blew past them? Did you pull an end cap down when you were chasing one another?” I said, “Wow, we didn’t do any of those things. Maybe we EACH deserve a candy bar!” We then discussed her list…they had all happened that evening since school had gotten out. It was 8:45 pm.
I overheard a mom telling her friend, “I hate raising kids. I can’t wait until they just grow up and move out.” I have had women tell me (generally in front of their children) “Yep, they’re moving out the day they turn 18.” One gal that Jeff works with refers to her son as “The Brat” all the time.
Why has training children become such a “trick” that we can’t enjoy our children any more? When did this become so hard? This is the discussion I’m going after this week. I think there are several parts to the answer, but I’d MUCH rather hear your thoughts on it? Why has child training become this HUGE issue that we’re all sucking wind at? (Or maybe you’re not…if so, would you move in with me, please?) 😉
Let’s talk about raising children who have hearts that are tender toward you, so that they might have hearts that are tender toward Father. Let’s talk about attending to the bodies, minds and hearts of our children. I fear that espresso and free puppies ought be the least of our concerns when we’re not attending to them.