Honor Based Parenting (Chap 6)
Okay Julie – did you get caught up? 😉 Chapter Six. Man, is this killer or what? Did anyone but me feel certain that they ought to send their children to live with the Turansky or Miller family until they were 16 or so? 😉
The skills required for honor based parenting. Oh, easy peasy, no problem. I can do these in my sleep. 🙄 Let’s go over them, one at a time, shall we?
Skill #1 Be firm without being harsh. Talk less and show less emotion. Um hmm, doing that, for sure.
Skill #2 Express sorrow instead of anger. Balancing our love for our children with our sorrow for their poor choices. E.A.S.Y.
Skill #3 Use problem solving and decision making. Lectures can hinder the process of discovery. Who uses lectures??!
Skill #4 Enjoy children according to their needs and interests. Getting to know our children is foundational for honoring them. Duh? Like we don’t all know our children inside and out?
Skill #5 Envision a positive future for your children. “I sure hope you can manage to stay out of jail?” counts, right? 😉
Cool, well, looks like I’m just breezing through this honor based parenting thing. 😉
Of course I’m jesting. I find these skills to be very challenging. I want to make a declaration here and now – I LOVE teen-agers. I just love them. But, there is little else that can show my own sin faster than one of my teens stretching their wings to challenge me about something that I have declared L.A.W. This week we’ve been experiencing just that.
All week long, I’ve needed to employ EVERY SINGLE one of these skills. All week long I’ve tottered somewhere between success and abysmal failure. But, the most amazing, most wonderful Truth is hidden in the midst of that….GRACE.
Even as we try – and fail – or succeed – we can know that Father’s grace sustains both our children and ourselves. This new way of parenting is something we should attain to. But, on the other hand, the work of changing us is the Lord’s to do. Don’t get caught up in ALL that you need to change. Seek the face of Father and ask Him to show you what needs your attention first. He’ll make it evident. (You may not like what you see or how He does it, but you’ll KNOW where He wants you to start. Btdt!!)
So, how are YOU doing at implementing these skills? Which of them do you find most difficult?