No, as a matter of fact, you can’t be whatever you want when you grow up

We have been lying to our children for generations and it’s time to stop.  It’s time to stop, because by telling them this lie, we absolve our selves of responsibility AND we position them for a life of being unfulfilled and unsatisfied.

We have been created by the Master Creator and no artist creates anything without a purpose in mind.  While earthly artists may not know how their masterpiece will be displayed, they still know what emotions, what responses they are seeking from their work.  (This goes for ANY artist – using ANY medium – Godly or otherwise.)  Why then, would we suffer to believe – for even a moment – that our God – the Creator of heaven and earth – would have anything less planned for His creations?  

We have an education system that is full of concern as to how to make certain that each child passing through, does so with a sense of value and import.  What could possibly be more important than knowing that you were made in the image of God and for a purpose that no one else in the entire universe can complete, quite as well as you?  Talk about niche marketing!

When we, as parents – and some of us as parent educators – do not impart to our children a sense of holy awe over their daily walk, we are doing them a great disservice.  Rather than telling them that they can be whatever they want when they grow up, how much better it would be to look them deep in the eye and say, “YOU have been created for something GREAT by the Most High God. Together, we’re going to discern what that is and your Dad and I are going to do all that we can to make certain that you are set upon the path that Father has for you!”  Who could possibly struggle with self esteem, knowing that they have been chosen to do something great?!

By telling our kids that they can do anything, we allow them to struggle and wrestle through things that the Lord never intended for them to battle.  We lessen their import to the Kingdom of God and furthermore, we exalt the world’s standards over those of the Kingdom!  The Kingdom says that our King prepared for you good works – that He chose for you before the foundation of time to do something special.  The world can’t offer our children that level of importance or value!  Nor can they offer them anything as certain.

When we give them a sense of Kingdom import, of Kingdom assignment, we also remove an entire layer of possible failure.  We have been made more than conquerors…how can one be MORE than a conqueror, unless even the potential for failure has been removed from the picture?  Scripture tells us that that which the Lord has ordained will surely come to pass – why wouldn’t we give that gift of success to our children?  “Son, the Lord has ordained you to do this – HE has insured your success.  Love Him and His Word and all that you turn your hand to shall succeed!  You shall be covered – on all sides – by His favor and you will grow in stature and favor with men!”

The moment we begin to impart to our kids a sense of calling…of assignment from the Most High, then we set them free to pursue the way that the Lord has for them, and not the world’s way.  Their way of arriving at their Kingdom destination may be different from what others would choose for them, but we can know, with all confidence that the plans that our God has for us are good – that include a future and a hope – whether they are “conventional” or not.  No more do we wrestle with college or no college?  Ministry or no ministry?  Job or no job?  Instead we seek the face of our loving God to find out what way they are to walk and we set them free to walk it.

For too many years, the Body of Christ has passed through this world without ever making a difference.  For a place that is CRYING out for the manifestation of the sons of God, that is a reprehensible thought!  Because of a wrong belief, we have allowed men and women of God to come, just the wise men before them, with great gifts to lay before the King, only in this picture, those gifts go the way of dust, without ever having been delivered at His feet!

Jesus prayed it, it’s so familiar, yet we have not set our faces to it, made it the goal of our child rearing – Thy Kingdom, oh Lord, THY Kingdom come, Thy will be done – here on earth, just like it is in heaven.  We have heard it, said it and prayed it, but we have not lived it well.  We have not sought to raise these precious young people to see themselves as those who are called to bring God’s heavenly Kingdom to earth.  We have put it off as a future reality.  But, the reality is that the hour is here – the time is now – for us to train up children in the way that they should go – the way that the Master Creator has created them to go – so that never again, do we close the casket on a masterpiece undisplayed.

(Want to know how I really feel about this?!  LOL)

4 Responses to “No, as a matter of fact, you can’t be whatever you want when you grow up”
  1. ~ Patricia says:

    I LOVED this, Dawn. Emily and I have this discussion all the time. Many of her friends have 5 and 10 yr plans based on their desires for prevailing cultural norms and prosperity, not on a life surrendered to God’s unique plans and purposes for their life. At a baby shower a few weeks ago, Emily was quizzed about what she is “doing” now that she has finished homeschooling. I told one of the women that I thought that girls who developed a 5-yr plan were going to be very disappointed 5 years from now. She didn’t understand what I was trying to say…but you do! Just yesterday Emily told me that she is “planning” on the internship in DC in January, but remaining open to a different plan should God direct her. At a homeschool graduation a couple of weeks ago, the graduate’s older sister gave the address. She told her sister to “have your dreams for the future, but hold them with an open hand.” I sure wish I had been given such wisdom “way back when.” Thanks for sharing how you REALLY feel about this, Dawn. =)

  2. Violet says:

    There is so much freedom in living life to the full when you know that “the Lord hath made all things for himself.” He has gifted each one of us to go full speed ahead in the areas of those gifts to bring Him glory. I often get side-tracked in developing God’s gifts to me for my own glory and sense of fulfillment, satisfaction, etc. I have found John Piper’s quote to be so true: “God is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied in Him.”

  3. javadawn says:

    Thank you my Dears! I just love it when the Holy Spirit is directing so many to the same Scriptures. LOVE IT! 🙂

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