A sewer by any other name….
“THAT is an infraction of the Law of the Least Of! You need to apologize to your sister.”
Her blue eyes looked up at me in complete confusion. “It’s a WHAT?!!”
The sibling involved, without batting an eye, said, “It was dishonoring.”
“Ooooh!” Obvious understanding now all over her 4 year old face.
Honor. I had no intention of writing about honor this morning. In fact, until I opened my dashboard to write, my intention was to muse on the things that Father is teaching me about the Prodigal Son. But, right before coming here, I read a piece from HSLDA called, “Curb the Culture of Cursing”
In the piece the author is cautioning parents to pay attention to what their children are saying to one another. She mentions the speech of children to one another in public. She also cites Proverbs 6: 16 – 19 as part of the standard by which we are to measure the words of their mouths.
While I appreciate her desire to draw attention to the way children – family members – speak to one another – I long to see her focus on the real issue at hand. The heart attitude behind it! From the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks. While putting a guard on what our children are allowed to say to one another is helpful, it’s the heart attitude that is most concerning to me.
I once had a conversation with another Christian mum that has burned itself into my memory. She said, “I don’t hear your kids call each other names,” (They didn’t. They still don’t.) “what do you do to keep them from doing that?” I explained to her “The Law of the Least Of” (Whatever you do to the least of these, my brethren, you’ve done unto ME. A term which I obviously have stopped using, since Davenna was TOTALLY lost when I used it the other day.) that operated at our house. We talked about what that looked like, she asked questions, nodding, pausing, thinking. Finally, she gave a vigorous nod, making me think that she could hear the import of what we were discussing. With a smile of contentment and a deep sigh, she then said, “Yeah…I think I’m going to charge them a dime when they do it.”
We, the Bride of Christ, have become so deluded into thinking that we can apply the world’s methodology to our life issues and get Biblical results. If we want Biblical results, we need to apply the Biblical methods. So, while addressing the words coming from the mouths of our kiddos (and ourselves!) is a needful thing, if we never address the honor – or lack thereof – in their hearts, we will never get results that will last outside of our dime-charging earshot!!
You see, stinky words, no matter what we call them – cursing, infractions of the Law of the Least Of, ugly, rude – will still stink….until we change where those words are coming from. James explains it so much better than I.
But no one can tame the tongue; it is a restless evil and full of deadly poison. With it we bless (the least of these and hence) our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the likeness of God; from the same mouth come both blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be this way. Does a fountain send out from the same opening both fresh and bitter water?